How Prostate Play Can Help With Your Cum Game
Your penis isn’t the only part of your body that can spark those eye-rolling, toe-curling orgasms. Whether you realize it or not, some of the most intense orgasms might come from your other “P”—your prostate.
What is the Purpose of the Prostate?
The prostate is a small gland in people assigned male at birth, located just below the bladder and in front of the rectum. Its primary purpose is related to reproduction, but it can also play a role in sexual pleasure.
The prostate creates a significant portion of the seminal fluid that mixes with sperm from the testicles to form semen. Which:
- Nourishes sperm
- Protects it in the acidic environment of the vagina
- Helps sperm move more easily
The enzymes, zinc, and other nutrients in prostatic fluid help keep sperm healthy and capable of fertilizing an egg.
The prostate surrounds part of the urethra, the tube that carries urine and semen out of the body. During ejaculation, it helps close off the bladder, so urine doesn’t mix with semen.
Disclaimer
Any kind of anal play—including stimulation of the sensitive perineum—requires some basic precautions. Trim your nails, consider using latex or nitrile gloves for comfort and hygiene, empty or clean the bladder and rectum beforehand, and always use plenty of silicone- or water-based lubricant.
The Wonderful P-Spot
Also called the P-spot (or male G-spot), the prostate is a key pleasure center thanks to its abundance of nerve endings. But simply sticking a finger up your backdoor probably won’t be enough to take you over the edge. The prostate needs a bit of finesse—the right techniques, precise angles, and plenty of lube—to unlock those much-desired mind-blowing orgasms.
Prostate orgasms may feel subtle and unfamiliar at first since they’re new. Over time, they often develop into a full-body sensation that radiates throughout, making it feel like your entire body is experiencing orgasm. Learning to connect with this sensation can transform your relationship with your body.
Working the P-Spot to Orgasm
Using an appropriate amount of lubricant to your middle and pointer fingers, slowly penetrate your anus. Move your fingers in a “come here” motion, massaging the prostate, and you’ll start to build up the pressure that leads to orgasm. Sex toys can also be used to massage the prostate to orgasm.
That trial-and-error process can take time. Some prostate owners experience the big O on their first try, while others need a bit (or a lot!) of practice to discover what works best for them.
What is Prostate Milking and How is it Different from a Prostate Massage?
These terms are often used interchangeably, but they’re not quite identical.
Technically speaking, prostate massage refers to the act of stimulating the prostate gland. It becomes prostate milking when that stimulation results in the release of prostatic fluid, either with or without ejaculation.
If the main goal of prostate play is orgasm, then ejaculation might just be a bonus. However, some believe that prostate milking may offer additional benefits for sexual function or prostate health.
Are There Any Health Benefits?
There is little to no scientific or medical evidence supporting the idea that “prostate massage therapy” provides benefits for physical or sexual health. However, some urology specialists, along with various alternative health practitioners and self-proclaimed “men’s health” experts, recommend prostatic massage or prostate milking as a potential aid for certain medical conditions or sexual dysfunctions.
One common claim is that releasing prostatic fluid through prostate milking can reduce swelling caused by prostate inflammation. Some proponents suggest combining milking with antibiotics to treat both acute and chronic prostatitis, though mainstream medical advice typically recommends antibiotics alone.
Prostate milking is also promoted as a way to relieve symptoms of benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH), with the idea that buildup of prostatic fluid worsens prostate enlargement and milking reduces pressure on the urethra, easing urinary symptoms. However, there’s no scientific evidence to support this.
Some believe prostate milking can help alleviate pelvic pain by relieving pressure in the pelvic floor muscles, but a relevant case study found no benefit of prostate massage for pelvic pain relief.
Perhaps the most intriguing claim is that prostate milking can help with erectile dysfunction or ejaculation issues by improving circulation, relaxing muscles, repairing nerve damage, or treating prostatitis—all potential causes of sexual dysfunction. Unfortunately, no research currently supports these claims.
Disclaimer
It goes without saying that careless exploration of the anus and rectum can cause scratches or abrasions, as the tissue there is very sensitive. However, two groups should avoid prostate play altogether: individuals with active prostatitis, who risk spreading bacteria to the urethra and bloodstream, and those with prostate cancer, where stimulation could potentially promote the spread of cancer.
How to Milk Your Prostate
Exploring the back door can be a lot of fun, but it requires some extra preparation. Begin by taking a shower and cleaning your butt thoroughly—douching can help ensure you avoid any unexpected messes.
Above all, take your time. Going slowly not only enhances comfort but also improves your chances of locating the prostate and successfully milking it.
Begin in a comfortable position that provides good access for you or your partner. Lying face down, on your side, or in a doggy-style position can be great places to start.
Slowly insert a finger into the anus and gently feel along the front wall of the rectum—the side nearest the belly button and genitals. The prostate, or P-spot, is located about four inches in and feels like a small, round bump. If you get the sensation of needing to urinate, that’s a sign you’re in the right spot.
Then, use one or two fingers to stimulate the prostate gently, often with a “come here” motion for the best results. Then, as the saying goes, “keep going until it’s done.”
The sensations will be more intense if you or a partner stimulate the penis or other erogenous zones at the same time. But know that you don’t have to rely on your fingers—using sex toys can make prostate milking easier. Prostate massagers specifically designed to target the P-spot are available online and in stores. However, regular anal vibrators or butt plugs can also be used to stimulate the prostate. While it might take some time to learn how to use them for maximum pleasure, the effort is definitely worth it.
And How Does This Effect my Semen?
While stimulating the prostate, you may notice ejaculate coming out of your penis, even though you’re not having a penile orgasm. Often observed but not limited to Femdom practices, the female partner will stimulate the man’s prostate by finger or with the use of a sex toy which includes dildos and strap-ons. The male is either in a doggy-style position or lying on his back with his legs up and anus exposed, receiving the female.
And while pressure is applied to the prostate, the seminal fluid being released is often collected on a dish or in a bowl, to be used in future cum play activities or simply ingested by the male.
For some, the prostate orgasm can be so intense that it has been know to produce what is labeled as a hands-free orgasm, ejaculating massive amounts of semen in what appears to be ropes.
Conclusion
Stimulating the prostate, while extremely enjoyable, is known to also increase the amount of seminal fluid released when ejaculate is released from the penis during orgasm. In other words, it results in a larger load—though it may be a bit more watery.
And when you are exploring the hidden pleasures of the prostate with a partner, as always, communication is crucial for successfully pulling off an orgasm without pain or discomfort.
